Suffer little unforgiving heart…

We all know the bible verse “…A joyful heart is good medicine, But a broken spirit dries up the bones” (Prov 17v22) but do we really understand it.

There was a time I hated hearing it, I was in so much pain and hurt. I didn’t want anything but to just recount and replay in my head all that happened to me. All the wrongs that were done to me were somehow precious to me.

I was very young and bitter. Saddest thing is, the people who hurt me couldn’t have cared less if I was alive or dead.

And because they didn’t care, I started feeling less and less important; but more and more loving the thought of being a victim.

As time went, I realised that I was watching my life pass me by. I was wasting time being consumed in hatred and anger. While my peers were going for their dreams, I was sobbing every day.

I wanted to be happy, cheerful and ambitious again, but it was so foreign to me.

So I started doing things differently…

1. I began by giving myself permission. Permission to laugh, to learn, to be wrong and not give myself a 3^rd degree, but rather accept that mistakes happen and the best thing it to learn from them.

2. I forgave. I named every single person who wronged me and forgave them.

3. Then I forgave me. Yes, there were times when I was so harsh and hard on myself and was really being unfair.

4. I started listening more. Giving people a chance and really listen to their point of you. I learned that not every single person is the same. And there is good in all people.

5. I accepted that I cannot ever change my past. It happened; ooh but guess what? I am still here because there is more for me to achieve, learn and enjoy.

6. I started dreaming again and oh what amazing dreams have come into my heart and mind.

7. I am still learning every day to be merry and cheerful…

Be blessed beyond.

Fortunate

Maturity comes from experience.

Maturity isn’t just about how old one is. It’s a lot of processes that one has gone through to certify them matured.

For instance one may have a great job with amazing benefits, but because they haven’t had any life lessons on money they might spend their earnings anyhow.

But one who has had a fair share of either poverty or financial strain will spend their earnings different.

Maturity comes from experience.

So why then are we quick to judge those who seem to be slow in grasping life. I mean we also didn’t know better until it happened to us. And did we even ask for “life changing experiences”to happen to us? No we didn’t; it just happened and we were changed by them.

It’s about awareness; calmly seeking understanding and as a result we become mature.

We all know life is the best teacher; but if life has taught others about certain things/experiences yet, how then do you judge?

For a girl who has had it all knows different to a girl who has never had it. She probably doesn’t know that one won’t die if they pass one day without a meal. She may also not know that one can be happy even without branded clothes.

Judge less and learn more.

Be blessed Beyond J

Fortunate.

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